After publishing my ’12 general rules’ the other day I got a couple questions from two different friends.
Chris asked asked how that relates to my affirmations.
Demetri wondered why my list didn’t have anything about my family.
Thank you friends!
I love good friends.
My friends love improving themselves, and they are genuinely interested in other’s well-being.
And their questions made me re-think my ‘general rules’ sheet and it’s purpose.
Many of the rules are repeated on my larger sheet of affirmations. And I realized that this was more of a ‘short list’ of my affirmations.
So I changed it to ‘My short list of ways’.
My affirmations list is now pretty big, and I realized through my friend’s questions that what I was going for with the rules list was a shorter list of my highest priorities that I hold myself accountable to DAILY.
Giving real thought time and accountability to each.
Rather than just skimming over them as sometimes happens with a huge list.
Really asking myself if I lived that today.
Then checking it off and tracking it to ensure that I really account to myself.
I started using the Lift app to track it which is been great because I can keep a record really easily of how I am doing.
(you can follow me there and use it yourself if you need simple accountability from your phone)
Most importantly though, having to make the choice of whether I check off the item each day allows me to reflect on these items a little more each day.
It feels good to remember, and account each day.
Keeps me focused on my desired path.
So that’s why I have this ‘short list’ in addition to my affirmations.
This has become my accountability sheet of my highest priorities.
And I realized I wanted to add a couple items…around two of my highest priorities (being a husband and father).
It’s a living doc…I add to and change it as I feel the need….see below for my new revised ‘short list of ways’.
And thanks again friends!
For being true, caring friends, who positively impact my life.
As an aside on that topic:
Are your ‘friends’ true friends?
Do they genuinely care about you?
Better yet, are you a true friend?
Do you genuinely care about those around you?
Ponder on that for a minute…
…you may find some changes in you or your chosen environment may be in order for you to be surrounded with the love and support in your life you truly want.
It’s OK to ‘let go’ sometimes by the way. You are not required to stay in relationships with people who are trying to pull you down…just sayin’.
I’ve been there before, and as good hearted people who want to love and serve, we sometimes don’t notice when we are actually being ‘abused’ in some way. Not saying to ditch our friends when they are struggling, but some relationships are just toxic, and you are better off distancing yourself over time from the negative and seeking more positive influences in your life.
Environment is everything…so they say.
And if your environment is constantly negative it’s a much tougher battle to stay positive.
Have a great day today!
Here’s my revised ‘short list of ways.’
- I go to sleep and get up at the same time 7 days per week (9:30 p.m. and 5 a.m.
- I always stick to my diet of organic vegetables, meats, nuts & good fats and oils.
- I meditate, envision my ideals & goals, and write for at least 30 minutes first thing every morning.
- I update my gratitude & achievement journal daily
- I wait until 11 a.m. Before checking email and I don’t talk on the phone unless it is a scheduled interview or call.
- I exercise my body daily. I love being outside and moving every day. I take advantage of every precious moment of life and enjoy the beauty all around me.
- I work from a written priority list each day
- My wife is my queen, I adore her with all my heart and I always treat her that way. Bringing her joy is my highest priority and calling in life.
- I am an amazing Father to my children. I spend quality time daily with them, teaching, playing, and laughing with them.
- I do not engage in confrontations with anyone, in-person or online. This is a waste of time and energy. If I have caused harm, I apologize and fix the situation. Then I take a deep breath, relax, breathe out, and re-focus my efforts back on my work and goals.
- I am guided by these two phrases:
a) “Other’s opinions don’t affect me.” – I can only work towards my chief aim, the vision of helping others live a truly amazing life. The opinions of others do not affect my goals.
b) “It will all be over soon.”
- I blame no one but myself. Everything that happens to me is my personal responsibility. I make my choices and live my life, nobody else can do that for me. I accept the consequences of my actions. And I remember that everything is conspiring for my benefit and I will find the good in it all.
- I will work daily at expanding my influence for good in the world until over 1 million people are inspired with hope and encouragement each day and then I will raise my sights and keep working throughout my life. I will never retire from a life of serving others because that is the joy of life.
- I will be the person I want to be. I will live the 12 pillars of a Truly Amazing Life daily throughout my life, regardless of the circumstances, and I will not lower my standard or change my values to ‘fit in’ with anyone. I always remember who I am and what I stand for. When I fall short of this ideal, I am kind and merciful to myself, I forgive myself, I lean on my community for support & love, and I look for lessons and growth opportunities.
- I always keep the child within me alive and play and laugh daily.
- I write with honesty and feeling. The opinions of others, positive or negative, do not matter. What matters is that I am helping people by sharing love, encouragement, and insight straight from my heart through my writing.