Think – Day 17 – Shift from striving to accepting.
Related to the ‘non-striving’ attitude we discussed yesterday, let’s not focus our attention on breaking bad habits.
Instead, let’s stay focused on creating the new habit of daily meditation, first thing for at least ONE MINUTE.
Tim Gallwey said this on habits: “It’s much more difficult to break a habit when there is no adequate replacement for it.”
So, whatever you have been in the groove of doing first thing in the morning until now, don’t try to fight that thing and stop doing it.
Especially if you are in the habit of immediately checking emails or the ‘bad news’ and getting sucked into a negative spiral right off the bat each day.
Instead of fighting that, just replace it with a new habit of meditating.
“It is a painful process to fight one’s way out of a deep mental groove. It’s like digging yourself out of a trench. But there is a natural and more childlike method. A Child doesn’t dig his way out of his old grooves; he simply starts new ones!”
“A child doesn’t have to break the habit of crawling, because he doesn’t think he has a habit. He simply leaves it as he finds walking an easier way to get around.”
“It is the resisting of an old habit that puts in you in that trench. Starting a new pattern is easy when done with childlike disregard for imagined difficulties. You can prove this to yourself by your own experience.” – W. Timothy Gallwey
So, don’t worry about the patterns and habits you have that lead to negative thoughts and feelings.
Don’t even judge them as ‘bad’ habits…they are just habits.
Just focus your energy on going where you want to go.
This will make you feel good, and old patterns will fall away naturally.
Meditating first thing in the morning is a powerful way to show yourself you are in charge of your life.
You show yourself you have the ability to live life on your own terms and not get sucked into other people’s agenda’s to start each day.
That alone will bring you peace.
But then you will get all the other benefits of meditating also.
Now let’s discuss the attitude of ACCEPTANCE
“We often waste a lot of energy denying and resisting what is already fact.”
“When we do that, we are basically trying to force situations to be the way we would like them to be, which only makes for more tension. This actually prevents positive change from occurring.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn
Remember, it is what it is! You are where you are and can’t change that!
You can only choose a new right now if you are present right now and you accept your state.
If you resist where you are or attempt to deny it, you are living in the past or future and you give up your freedom to change course.
“Now is the only time you have for anything. You have to accept yourself as you are before you can really change.”
“By intentionally cultivating acceptance, you are creating the preconditions for healing.”
“In the meditation practice, we cultivate acceptance by taking each moment as it comes and being with it fully, as it is.”
“We try not to impose our ideas about what we should be feeling or thinking or seeing on our experience but just remind ourselves to be receptive and open to whatever we are feeling, thinking, or seeing, and to accept it because it is here right now.”
“If we keep our attention focused on the present, we can be sure of one thing, namely that whatever we are attending to in this moment will change, giving us the opportunity to practice accepting whatever it is that will emerge in the next moment.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn
If you observe your thoughts long enough (even 10 seconds!) you will see that they change…a LOT!
This is really good news!
If your thoughts are currently caught up in patterns that make you feel bad, the knowledge that they can quickly and easily pass is very useful!
With acceptance rather than judgment of your current state, you allow your thoughts to flow on through, rather than damning them up causing a vortex of un-ease and dis-ease inside you.
Accept where you are.
This leads to the ability to let go…which we’ll discuss tomorrow.
But today, make sure you STOP. SIT. And focus on your breath, and your one word.
Do this for one minute and then allow yourself to continue up to 10 or 20.
You can do it! Meditation practice is the path to the peace within you.
Make Today Amazing!