Think – Day 16 – Give yourself the gift of doing nothing, daily.
How is your meditation practice going?
Are you keeping the minimum daily commitment to yourself?
And are you finding yourself able to expand on the minimum and work up to 10 to 20 minutes?
Some have expressed the challenge of moving beyond the 2-3 minute mark because they find themselves so busy with such a long task list and this just becomes one of many other tasks.
And I’ve heard from others that the biggest challenge is just keeping the mind from wandering.
Here’s what I recommend if you’re finding yourself struggling to expand to the 10-20 minute mark:
MEDITATE FIRST THING UPON RISING
That is my personal practice. Meditation is the very first thing I do upon waking up just after drinking a glass of water.
I go to my comfortable chair, the same place every day, and I do it first.
I highly encourage arising early enough to complete your entire morning routine BEFORE starting your work, email, checking your phone, or anything else in the morning.
This is one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself and others.
One of our members last week was expressing to me a feeling of overwhelm with life in general.
When I asked about his morning routine, he mentioned that he was starting work by 7:30 AM responding to emails and calls, and it never stopped until late in the evening.
He felt overwhelmed, exhausted, and a bit hopeless on his situation, very discouraged.
So I invited him to make the commitment to me and to himself to refuse to look at any electronics until just 9:30 AM each day.
This transformed his entire experience of daily life the very first day.
He messaged me the next day to tell me he was full of peace and tranquility.
If you are struggling to get your meditation or any other personal daily practices done from the Truly Amazing Morning Routine (download the daily routine checklist here), I implore you to love yourself enough to block out some morning time for yourself.
Maybe you have kids and other super early commitments that make this seem impossible.
Everyone has different schedules…maybe you need to commit to going to bed 30 minutes earlier, so you can rise 30 minutes earlier.
Whatever you do, I HIGHLY, HIGHLY recommend finding a way to block off time for YOU and yourself only in the morning hours.
This changes the feel and theme of your entire day.
If you can’t do this, then the 2nd best option is to create a time block at some point later in the day, that you NEVER allow anyone to intrude on except family emergencies.
This is imperative to your happiness and peace in life.
If you do not block out a small window of time for yourself daily to meditate, write, read, and affirm the truth, here’s the hamster wheel you’ll most likely stay trapped on:
Always striving and never arriving at a state of peace.
So make sure to block out some ‘non-striving’ time daily – which is the 5th attitude on our list in practicing mindfulness.
You need time daily to not do anything…just be.
“Almost everything we do is for a purpose, to get something or somewhere.”
“Ultimately meditation is “a non-doing.” It has no goal other than for me to be myself.”
“If you sit down to meditate and you think, “I am going to get relaxed, or get enlightened, or control my pain, or become a better person,” then you have introduced an ideal into your mind of where you should be, and along with it comes the notion that you are not okay right now.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn
Sometimes we can get so caught up in ‘self-improvement’ that we are not okay with who we are…we feel we always must improve.
That’s not the idea with meditation.
“This attitude undermines the cultivation of mindfulness, which involves simply paying attention to whatever is happening.”
“If you are tense, then just pay attention to the tension. If you are in pain, then be with the pain as best you can. If you are criticizing yourself, then observe the activity of the judging mind.”
“Just watch. Remember, we are simply allowing anything and everything that we experience from moment to moment to be here — because it already is.”
“The best way to achieve your own goals is to back off from striving for results and instead to start focusing carefully on seeing and accepting things as they are, moment by moment.”
“With patience and regular practice, movement toward your goals will take place by itself.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn
It’s great to have goals and dreams in life…but it’s amazing how simple clarity and acceptance of where we are right now is the best way to progress them.
Plus it’s liberating to allow yourself to just BE and not have to DO anything.
Give yourself that gift.
Be present. That’s all.
Make Today Amazing!