Welcome to another beautiful day of life!
I’m so glad to be on this human roller coaster journey of highs and lows and constant growth with you.
So far we’ve covered an overview of what we’re up to this month and just the tip of the iceberg on why.
We’ve also covered some background on where the phrase we are focusing on this month came from.
Today I’d like to speak straight to the heart and core of this work we’re doing together this month.
I’d like to get personal with an example of how to host these daily conversations with yourself.
Three times each day I’ve invited you to spend time with these four sentences: “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.”
Going forward, as you do that I invite you to allow yourself the time and space to really reflect on each sentence.
When you say, “I’m sorry,” think about it! What are you sorry for?
List it out.
Get real with yourself.
Don’t just stop with the statement, “I’m sorry,” and rush on through to, “Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you,” to check this task off your list.
‘Task checking’ is fun, I know!
But checking a task off a list is NOT the thing that will get you the habit to Love Unconditionally!
To get the habit to Love Unconditionally you must do the work each day to get in touch with your emotions.
You will not naturally want to do this!
It’s work. It’s going to be hard some days. Maybe a lot of days. Don’t expect this to be a walk in the park.
But do allow yourself to show up and just take the first step.
Most of the hard work is just taking that first step into your emotional vulnerability.
Getting vulnerable with yourself daily is very good.
Once you’re over that threshold and you have taken down the emotional guard – it’s not that hard to just let the inner dialogue flow.
The goal each day is to allow the simple statement, “I’m sorry,” to open the door to your heart and create the space for an intimate conversation with yourself to unfold!
Here’s an example of a dialogue I might have with myself…
…Either in front of the mirror, or writing in my journal, or just in my mind wherever I happen to be:
“I’m sorry for not doing everything I said I would do today: For eating too much. For working too long and not being fully present with my children. For not being sensitive to Nan’s needs.”
“I’m sorry for allowing myself to be distracted by meaningless things that stole my attention and led me down an unproductive rabbit hole. I feel ashamed…I let you down, and I let others down.”
“I’m so sorry. Please forgive me. It’s hard for me to even ask forgiveness when knowing my track record lately I’ll just be distracted again in 5 minutes. I’m sorry for my weakness. Can you forgive me?”
“Yes. Of course I forgive you. I see your heart.”
“Thank you! Thank you for forgiving me. Thank you for your mercy and compassion.”
“Thank you for accepting me even with my flaws and weakness.”
“Thank you for seeing me, and understanding me, even when I don’t fully understand myself.
“I love you!”
“You are amazing. I see your heart. I see your intentions. They are good. You just want to provide a joyful life for your family and do good for others.”
“I believe in you. I know you are doing your best. I see your challenges and I accept you in all your humanness…exactly where you are, how you are, and who you are.”
“There is nothing you have done or even can do to stop me from loving you.”
“If you were my child I would love you no matter what. Even if you betrayed me, my heart would always love you…because you are mine.”
“I will love you with the same love I would give to my child in that way.”
“You are mine. You are me. We are family. We are one. I will love you no matter what.”
“I’m sorry for speaking harshly to you and being unkind in thought…holding an unkind standard over your head.”
“I accept you in your imperfection. It’s all complete perfection actually. We are exactly where we were meant to be in this very moment.”
“I don’t hope for your weakness but I fully accept it and love you anyway.”
“I love you __________!” (Insert your own name)
So that’s just one extended example of how to use this powerful phrase: “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.”
Allow yourself to go deeper with your dialogue with yourself today.
And experiment with expanding your thoughts of love and forgiveness toward others also. We’ll go deeper on the outward thoughts tomorrow.
…Make today amazing!