“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” – Mother Teresa
We all feel disconnected from love at times.
When we aren’t plugged into love we feel empty. It’s so tempting to want to run away and escape the void of emptiness inside.
Even though I’ve been teaching the habits of how to stay connected and make today amazing for years…
…I get off track sometimes just like everyone.
And then sometimes self-condemnation comes back even stronger!
It’s the curse of too much knowledge. When we know clearly what to do and we don’t do it what happens?
Negativity eats that stuff up!
It goes to town on us, heaping on the thoughts of self-criticism and self-loathing, and sets a vicious cycle in motion.
But whenever we find ourselves in that cycle let’s just stop it right now!
Just use the four sentences and you will break the cycle wherever it is, no matter how far negativity has progressed.
You can stop negativity in its tracks instantly with love.
I know you can.
We will face negativity throughout our lives. Accept that reality. Don’t hide from it.
But recognize that by focusing on one of the 12 fundamental habits of a Truly Amazing Life each month, you will constantly be sharpening your tools for cutting off negativity.
This habit to Love Unconditionally is a powerful tool that will wipe out negativity every time.
But what about when you look in your eyes and say, “I’m sorry,” and you feel like it’s hollow?
What about when you say, “Please forgive me,” and you can’t…you just can’t.
Whatever you’ve done is just too awful in your mind. You can’t see how it’s possible to be forgiven. What then?
That’s a good time to face reality head on and confront your options directly:
You can either A) Forgive and live free again, or B) Not forgive and keep suffering in bondage. That’s it. There are no other options.
Your only good option is to figure out how to forgive!
This practice of living in forgiveness is not something you can side step or do half way.
Forgiveness is all or nothing.
You can’t have lukewarm forgiveness. There’s no such thing as lukewarm love. Love is intense.
You’re either with love or against love.
It is either full forgiveness or full justice…there’s no partial forgiveness.
What about when you fail your spouse or someone you have made big commitments to and you can’t keep them all now with the time remaining?
Too many commitments, and all of the balls are dropping.
Your family can’t rely on you. Your customers can’t rely on you. YOU can’t rely on you. What are your options?
Give up? Just suffer through it until your problems magically disappear?
There is no ‘give up’ option and it’s not just going to ‘magically’ disappear without your positive action.
The only option is forgiveness.
Say sorry to everyone. Humble yourself . Ask forgiveness from yourself, from God, and from others. Say thank you.
Say I love you.
Love is powerful energy.
Sincere love brings forgiveness, casts out all fear, and fills all the dark shadows in your mind with light.
Act right in the face of pain.
When you connect to unconditional love then it may seem like everything magically or miraculously improves.
That’s the nature of love…it’s amazing and unfathomable.
Forgiveness and unconditional love are always the path to freedom and joy.
So if you find yourself seeking to escape the pain of the inner void in any way…
…Let that be a sign to follow Mother Teresa’s wise words: “Love until it hurts.”
Face the pain of saying, “I’m sorry,” — that’s one way to love until it hurts. Then you will break through all pain and find only more love.
I’ll leave you today with a few wise words from the Scottish author Henry Drummond:
“You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have truly lived are the moments when you have done things in the spirit of love.” – Henry Drummond
That is why love is all you need.
No matter what pain you face in life — face it with forgiveness and love!
The moment you become aware that you don’t feel good and you are disconnected from the spirit of love…get yourself back on track!
Use those four powerful sentences, “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.” Reconnect to the source of who you are: Love.
Saying, “I’m sorry,” always hurts pride. But that is the only good option…ever.
You can do it.
Make today amazing!