Aaron Kennard: Alright, welcome back to the Truly Amazing Life Show. I'm
back here with my good friend, Emily Filloramo, who
is a success and happiness catalyst and self-esteem and confidence coach. We
had her (she was on the show) a few weeks, maybe a month or so ago, and we had
such great feedback and some really, really amazing results from some of our
members from just the advise that they took from her on that call that I wanted
to get her back on here – go a little bit deeper into this – and
help people a little bit more. To give you some idea of what Emily does is she
really helps people feel good about themselves and takes them from good to
great by eliminating their old baggage - so that they can get out on their own
way – so that you can get out on your own way and be happy and live life
to your full potential. So, welcome back, Emily.
Emily Filloramo: Thank you. I just want to give you a warning, my Skype just went out just a second ago. If I lose you, IÕll call right back.
Aaron Kennard: Alright. Sounds good. We will jump right in here. So, Emily, we had some great success – I had so many feedbacks from people from our last call. And, just a lot of people were so thankful to have you on. They really related with you and they just really connected with you and, so, a couple of people in particular, then reached out to you and contacted you and youÕve been in touch with them and given them some coaching since then. Tell us a little bit about whatÕs going on there – what your experiences been with some of the people that have really been helped since our last call.
Emily Filloramo: Great! Well, thank you for having me on again. And, I hope you can hear me okay because youÕre coming in just a little fuzzy.
Aaron Kennard: Yeah I can hear you great.
Emily Filloramo: Okay, great! So, one of your listeners listened to the original podcast and she was really moved by the story and what she did was she went to my website and downloaded my guide on the three steps to instantly discard the emotional baggage that holds you back – that keeps you stuck. And, she took herself through this process, this specific process of forgiving the person that negatively affected you the most – you can do this for other people, too – but I think itÕs most important that you touch base with maybe itÕs a mother or a father, a boyfriend or girlfriend and just really understand their point-of-view why they hurt you. Because often times these people donÕt really mean to hurt us. They are just operating from their place of pain and weÕre just taking it in a different way and it affected us negatively. So, anyhow, the free evals that I give out have those steps but I just want to share what happened to one of AaronÕs listeners when she took herself through the step of forgiving the person that hurt her the most and also accessing that young part of her that was so affected by this person and giving her the love and reassurances that she needed – that she never got at the time of the injury.
Aaron Kennard: Yeah, and I want to talk about what that means to access a young part of you. And, so, weÕll kind of get into that. Yeah, take us through what she went and IÕll ask any questions that I may need further clarification.
Emily Filloramo: Great! So, what IÕll do is IÕll read that note that this person has sent me and then you could fire away and ask me the questions. So, what she said was that she was touched by the story that I had shared with you and I was particularly moved by your suggestion of getting in touch with a younger self – allowing them to express and giving them the unconditional love and support they so desperately needed at that time.
Aaron Kennard: And sheÕs referring to when maybe she was younger, like ten years old, and just kind of getting and remembering back to who that person was at that time – is that what youÕre talking about when you say getting in touch with your younger self?
Emily Filloramo: Yes, especially even younger than that. Because often times what happens is before the age of six our brains are in a hypnotic trance – therein operating under delta and theta waves which means our brains literally take in everything that anybody says to us and we take in every experience literally. The people that take care of us donÕt have this information that even if you make fun of Johnny just a little bit when heÕs four years old, well, heÕs going to take that in as ÒIÕm bad.Ó HeÕs not going to know that youÕre doing it just to kid around. And, you do that enough and JohnnyÕs going to grow up into a boy and then into a man thatÕs not going to have that much self-confidence or self-esteem because he keeps getting teased and joked over and over again.
Aaron Kennard: Yeah. Got it, got it. Okay, so, you want to continue with what she was saying there?
Emily Filloramo: Oh, sure. So, this person, this caller seeks reason for most people and, my cloud has always been hovering above my heart as if I walked around with a broken heart. But your technique even goes deeper. It goes to the root of the hurt that sponsor those limiting beliefs, So, last night in the privacy of my bedroom all by myself, I confronted one of those pains, and my mother and, boy, the river started flowing. I donÕt think I ever cried that intensely. Said hereÕs the great point about having compassion for the person that hurt us. I never realized how lonely, scared, unloved, unlovable and misunderstood I felt as a child. I always knew what the feeling was but once I allowed that younger self to talk and express herself I truly, really felt her pain. I also felt my momÕs pain and her feeling alone, unsupported in her marriage and really not knowing how to respond to my needs. I was left with such understanding and compassion for both of us, but most importantly I was able to really embrace that little girl and reassure her that she was alright just the way she was and she did not need to change and that she will be heard and loved from here on. And in the end, I put her in my heart where she belongs.
Aaron Kennard: Wow, thatÕs powerful.
Emily Filloramo: Yeah, yeah. So, essentially you get to rewrite the program that is in your head. So, if you have that, if you think about the negative stuff that happened maybe there was emotional abuse at home and you just felt neglected because your parents were mean to each other. They didnÕt have time to be great parents because theyÕre in such pain. And then you put yourself into their shoes and where theyÕre coming from and from that perspective you can feel how much pain they were in.
Aaron Kennard: Yeah. You know, sometimes I take these stuff for granted because I, we, all have different perspectives. We have different levels of, we all go to different places. And IÕve felt this at some point where IÕve seen a shift in my perspective toward somebody from the past where I feel a lot of compassion toward them. I felt what you just described but I didnÕt realize what was happening at that time. I just remembered being able to see anew somebody that caused me pain before and then seeing it from the other side. Seeing it from their perspective, able to feel this deep compassion and love for them and because theyÕre hurting and I think itÕs so important for us to be able to do that and to forgive people and to really take a look at their perspective. But, itÕs really interesting how you describe this, to go back to yourself as a young person and to actually like put yourself, forgiving yourself, forgiving that other person and the feeling, getting back into this feeling place. So, itÕs really cool. Keep going. What else were you going to share there?
Emily Filloramo: Yeah,so, she said that after that is that when you go back into that younger self, so like you said, when we feel the other person, we feel compassion instead of feeling negative emotions towards them once you realize where they are coming from. If you were on their shoes, how would you act? ItÕs like oh I can feel her pain or his pain. Oh, no wonder he treated me so badly. And sometimes theyÕre treating us badly when weÕre like three years old!
Aaron Kennard: YeahÉ
Emily Filloramo: And, we as a three-year old, well, often times parents think, ÒOh you know Johnny is just three. HeÕs not going to know anything thatÕs going on.Ó But you know what? Kids pick up everything. Even if we donÕt even understand the conversation per se, weÕll pick up the feelings.
Aaron Kennard: Yeah, I mean, youÕd be so surprised. I have an eighteen month old girl and she canÕt say anything really. She says mommy and daddy but sheÕs so amazingly smart. I will tell her stuff. IÕll say, ÒCan you go take this brush and take it over to that other place and put it in the garbage?Ó And, she will immediately grab it and go stick it in the garbage whatever the thing was. I mean, she totally understands everything IÕm saying even if she canÕt communicate. SheÕs eighteen months old...
Emily Filloramo: WowÉ
Aaron Kennard: And she can follow instructions perfectly, sheÕs brilliant. And, you know, if youÕre thinking like a three year old doesnÕt understand, well, you got to think again because and especially when they feel feelings, I mean, the negative energy and like if thereÕs arguments or fighting going on, itÕs definitely affecting them negatively. They feel fear. They feel everything and they understand whatÕs going on even if they donÕt consciously understand it. ItÕs affecting them, right?
Emily Filloramo: Exactly. And what happens is theyÕre picking it up. TheyÕre feeling it. But they donÕt know how to interpret it because there is no adult there, a loving adult there saying, ÒJohnny, this is not about you. YouÕre lovable. Your parents are fighting because theyÕre in a middle of a divorce.Ó
Aaron Kennard: Yeah.
Emily Filloramo: But, Johnny doesnÕt know this.
Aaron Kennard: Yup.
Emily Filloramo: And, so, Johnny interprets it as, ÒIÕm bad. ThatÕs why theyÕre fighting.Ó
Aaron Kennard: Yeah, they just feel the anger and they get it directed directly toward them. Right?
Emily Filloramo: Yes, yes, exactly. And what happens is, as we grow up, so Johnny feels rejected. And as he goes to school he looks for more incidences that reinforces this rejection, that reinforces the fact that he is not lovable, and that he is bad. And maybe he has a bad relationship in highschool and somebody, you know, with a bad break-up. So that again reinforces his negative core beliefs that he picked up when he was young that IÕm not lovable, IÕm not worthy, IÕm not enough. And when we had those toxic experiences, it creates these thoughts of us that lives in the dungeons of our psyche, locked away for years because our psyche doesnÕt want us to ever go back into that feeling of rejection.
Aaron Kennard: Because itÕs painful.
Emily Filloramo: Very painful.
Aaron Kennard: WeÕd stuff it away. We remember, back to experiences, we always remember the good things. We donÕt remember all the bad stuff. They get hidden away so they donÕt keep causing us pain.
Emily Filloramo: Yeah, and, so, what happens is that they get hidden away but we canÕt get rid of these negative parts. TheyÕre a part of who we are. So, these are our younger selves that are living in this dungeon and this dungeonÕs got locks on it. And this dungeon with this lock on it is guarded by soldiers, soldier parts that protect me from ever going to that original feeling of shame, rejection and pain. And these soldier parts, these are the parts that make you eat too much, drink too much, gamble too much. They make you procrastinate
Aaron Kennard: HowÕs that? Explain that a little bit more like how does that work and how are these parts or what are these parts that make us do that? Explain that to me a little bit. IÕm not quite following you.
Emily Filloramo: Okay. So what happens is that, letÕs say in this dungeon you have this four year old part that you remember, letÕs say, the day mom and dad divorced.
Aaron Kennard: Uh-huh.
Emily Filloramo: And that day or during that period you took on the belief that ÒIÕm bad. IÕm not lovable. IÕm not worthy. ThatÕs why theyÕre getting divorced. Why is dad leaving the house and heÕs never coming back?Ó
Aaron Kennard: Yup.
Emily Filloramo: And so that created a part in us.
Aaron Kennard: So, I get why there would be parts of us wanting to protect us from other parts of us because itÕs a negative painful belief. And, so, there are parts of us inside of us. Part of our internal mechanism is to hide those things away so that they donÕt keep coming up and causing us pain, right? And those are the soldiers youÕre talking about.
Emily Filloramo: No, okay, so those are the parts of us that are locked away, letÕs say, in the dungeons, in the basement because they hold such extreme emotions of shame and humiliation and rejection. And, our psyche doesnÕt want us to ever go there again because it was so painful.
Aaron Kennard: So, it locks that away.
Emily Filloramo: It locks that away so in order for us to never go there again. There are parts that are created in our psyche that are actually guarding the door to this dungeon.
Aaron Kennard: Yeah.
Emily Filloramo: They want to make sure nobody penetrates.
Aaron Kennard: Yeah.
Emily Filloramo: And, so, letÕs say youÕre in a relationship with someone and theyÕre treating you badly and itÕs kind of reminding you of the past and you get really anxious. And perhaps you drink too much, or smoke too much or whatever it is, or eat too much.
Aaron Kennard: So how is that connection? ThatÕs what I want to know is whatÕs that connection with us doing other things like why would we eat, or drink, or smoke or whatever because of that thing thatÕs walked away. ThatÕs what I want to connect with.
Emily Filloramo: Okay. So, the reason why we would do all that is to prevent us. ItÕs numbing. ItÕs emotional numbing. ItÕs trying to prevent us from going there. You know how some people donÕt feel right and theyÕre getting a little anxious and getting a little reminded that somebody is triggering them. And a wall starts to come up. So, that part can make us do the things we donÕt want to do.
Aaron Kennard: And why does it do that? So, letÕs take the eating piece.
Emily Filloramo: Yeah.
Aaron Kennard: Like emotional eating when we know we donÕt want to do it. IÕve talked about this on previous episodes, how IÕve had that circumstance when I got overwhelmed. My tendency to go for comfort is to go eat some food as a distraction. But why? So, what is the part thatÕs making me? Why is it that we do that? Like what are you suggesting is theÉ
Emily Filloramo: Okay, so what that usually means is that there is something underneath there. What IÕm describing is based on something that is caught into our family system, modality of healing and self-leadership, in case anybodyÕs wondering. And itÕs based on parts work and this is parts work when we go and access the parts. So, letÕs say if I were to work with you for that eating part. Say, what is this eating part? What does it want you to know? How long has it been protecting you all these years?
Aaron Kennard: So, eating part, so itÕs these soldiers youÕre saying is like this is protecting your psyche from going into this dungeon and re-exposing this pain. And the way, what you are saying, the way heÕs protecting you is heÕs throwing up these distractions.
Emily Filloramo: Yes. Yes.
Aaron Kennard: HeÕs saying go do this. This will make you feel good because that will make you feel bad. YouÕre feeling down oh youÕre going down to this dungeon of these feelings. LetÕs stop that by distracting you with this other thing. Is that what youÕre trying to say?
Emily Filloramo: Yes, yes exactly.
Aaron Kennard: And everybodyÕs different, right? With different, like, I mean, it might be eating or it might be smoking, or it might be distraction on email or might be whatever you can do to comfort yourself.
Emily Filloramo: Yes, yes.
Aaron Kennard: Ok, so, what were you going to say?
Emily Filloramo: For different people, itÕs different things. IÕll give you a couple of other examples. I worked with somebody who procrastinated a lot. She didnÕt know why. And, as we peel back the layers of the onion, what we found out was she is procrastinating because she held on to a belief that she was not lovable or worthy. And, so she procrastinated. She would be late for all of her appointments and make her friends angry by showing up a half hour late. And so her friends wouldnÕt call her afterwards because they were so mad because she was so late. And she would do this over and over again. So I said, ÒWhy are you doing that?Ó And then we figured out why because we traced the breadcrumbs back. At first she said, ÒOh, itÕs because during my junior highschool I was at a dance and I was like the only one not making out with somebody. I felt so rejected and blah blah blah. And then it happened a couple of times.Ó I said, ÒOkay, so thatÕs not the first time you felt rejection. LetÕs keep going back. And we identified a one and half year old heart that felt that she wasnÕt lovable because her mom brought home her baby sister. And she distinctly remembers sitting on the floor wanting to get hugged from mom. And mom has all her attention on the baby. And as a one and half year old you have no idea that mom has no sleep and mom has no time.
Aaron Kennard: Yeah.
Emily Filloramo: And so because that core belief that she took on that sheÕs not worthy and sheÕs not lovable. It kept the injuries down the road, in school and later on in relationships reinforce her original belief that sheÕs not lovable. And because she believes that sheÕs not lovable she would procrastinate and make her friends mad to reinforce the original belief that sheÕs not lovable.
Aaron Kennard: Yup.
Emily Filloramo: And so the soldier with her was actually making her procrastinate because that soldier is guarding the one and half year old in the dungeon that originally did not feel lovable.
Aaron Kennard: Right. ThatÕs interesting. I mean we all do things at some point where we donÕt want to do them but for some reason we keep doing them. Like we could be the littlest thing and itÕs like we try to be disciplined but thereÕs some reason why we just keep doing it over and over. I think everybody has those things and if you get rid of one that will maybe uncover a different thing but itÕs...
Emily Filloramo: Yeah! So with the eating, like you said, eating is a part thatÕs covering up some sort of little girl or little boy in the dungeon.
Aaron Kennard: Yeah. ThatÕs good. ItÕs good to understand that. Was there more you wanted to share on that one person, the experience that we started out talking about?
Emily Filloramo: LetÕs see, so she was, you know, left with a lot of understanding and compassion for both of those people. And in the end she quickly put a young part of her heart. So she said, you know, every experience is really intensely draining, exhausting and emotional but she also felt so relieved to have allowed the younger self talk to and to really forgive her mom.
Aaron Kennard: Yeah. So, going through that experience, did she give the result of what thatÕs done for her now that she has kind of had that kind of forgiveness and had that experience relating with that younger part?
Emily Filloramo: Yeah. She had a lot of fear and anxiety and there were some things at work that she was going through. So there different people were treating her. Now she could see that she was feeling that way because of her young parts. And now I got on Skype with her the other day and this woman is just beaming. She just canÕt wait of the possibilities of what else can open up in her life because of the shift. Literally the dark cloud lifts.
Aaron Kennard: So what was she experiencing before? You mentioned fear and anxiety like she was really wrapped up in that kind of stuff.
Emily Filloramo: Yeah. With the dark cloud, it just couldnÕt get over the negative energy of her mother. Just couldnÕt stop thinking about the negative things.
Aaron Kennard: Yeah.
Emily Filloramo: Yeah. She canÕt wait to see as a result of all these forgiveness and what-not where this is going to take her life. She just feels like so much room has been brought in now that she no longer has to spend her energies in the past
Aaron Kennard: Yeah. So it has just been liberating for her. It sounds like sheÕs just got this. She like sees the light break through the clouds and she has been kind of covered by these clouds for so long, huh?
Emily Filloramo: Yeah, exactly. And the other thing I want to share with your listeners is that these parts, because we canÕt get rid of them, we just sweep them under the rug and just like IÕm over it, IÕm over, IÕm done. Now, whatÕs going to happen in your forties, fifties and sixties is if you donÕt address these parts, it is going to explode into something. Mental illness. Depression. Anxiety. Mood disorders. Oh itÕs going to explode into health and weight problems. And so many times health and weight issues are created by the mind. Now thereÕs been lots of studies that show that. Two-thirds of the problems that we had with our health problems are due to negative thoughts, negative thoughts about the past. And, so, this is our partsÕ way of asking for redemption. ÒHelp me! Talk to me! Do something!Ó
Aaron Kennard: Yeah. ThatÕs good. ItÕs so cool to hear of peopleÕs experiences, these massive shifts that theyÕre experiencing. And IÕm so grateful that you were getting on here to talk so openly about these stuff and give ideas. So, for people, do who want to take us any deeper? Do you want to tell us how like any more of these specific steps or just direct people to get your, that book that kind of outlines it all. Or, can you tell us briefly, as weÕre sitting here, whatÕs the simple way that people go about this, to start these shifts?
Emily Filloramo: The simple way, well, it is outlined in my book which you could access by going to succesandjoynow.com.
Aaron Kennard: Yeah. You just put your email and you get that free download of the kind of the (stuffs) for this.
Emily Filloramo: Yeah.
Aaron Kennard: ThatÕs what this other person did, right? She just downloaded that and went and did it and had these breakthroughs just from doing that, right?
Emily Filloramo: Yeah. We all have little girls and little boys living in the dungeons of our psyche that remembers the shame, the humiliation, the guilt, or whatever it is that was felt, whatever energy from the past.
Aaron Kennard: Right. I want to bring that up how itÕs doable, like for free, this free resource that Emily is giving. SheÕs a consultant and a coach and, you know, she can walk people through this and people that are really stuck definitely that one on one can really be powerful. But, I want to make sure that people are aware that this can happen on your own for no cost like you can just go and sheÕs giving you this resource because she wants to help and this experience proves that you can have significant breakthroughs just by understanding how to get in touch with yourself from the past and these emotions that youÕve been through. So, I just want to make that really clear for people that you can do this on your own as well but, not to say that if you struggle with that, you may need some additional help. ItÕs not a guarantee that everybody can get through that. ThereÕs not that either.
Emily Filloramo: Yes.
Aaron Kennard: But what I want to say is, so, definitely you feel like youÕre stuck. If you feel like youÕve got this dark cloud over you which a lot of people in the truly amazing live community have expressed that to me that they, itÕs like, theyÕre happy sometimes or theyÕre stuck in this thing for a long, long time like somebody just the other day said that since their mom died theyÕve been kind of in this dark cloud for nine years. They canÕt seem to break out of it. And this is an exact case of how that person could very well be helped by getting rid of, (by) releasing some of this emotional baggage from the past to build a breakthrough. And thereÕs many, many, many of us are going through that where weÕve felt super happy in life before and then something happens and we just kind of felt like this is a cloud that wonÕt go away. ThatÕs kind of what you are referring to, right Emily?
Emily Filloramo: Yes. Because energetically itÕs really, energy can neither be created nor destroyed. It can only be É
Aaron Kennard: Displaced.
Emily Filloramo: Transferred.
Aaron Kennard: Yeah.
Emily Filloramo: And, you know, we can release it. If we release it then it makes room for other good stuff to come in cause there is only a finite amount of energy that we can hold. And if you are holding all these dark cloud energy thereÕs no room for good stuff to come in.
Aaron Kennard: Yeah, so you can go to successandjoynow.com and get her free book. IÕm going to put the link on the podcast show notes page here at trulyamazinglive.com/episode26 or just go to trulyamazinglife.com and click on the podcast thing and youÕll see this from Emily. And IÕm also going to, sheÕs giving you a bunch of really, really cool resources explaining these stuff in more depth then weÕll put all those resources as links in the show notes in this podcast page at trulyamazinglive.com/episode26. And, I highly encourage you to go over there and check that out. And, also, while youÕre there leave us a comment with any questions. Like ask us, me and Emily, and we will respond to you on the blog page over there. If you have questions about this or if you have experiences, if you test it out and if youÕre struggling with something, just go ahead and comment on there and let us know what youÕre experiencing or what your thoughts are because weÕd love to hear from you and Emily is very willing and eager to help. This is like her lifeÕs mission is to help people become happy by releasing these past burdens of emotions. So, and thatÕs my lifeÕs mission to help people in the same way, to help people live a truly amazing life. And this is such a major part of that. Like you canÕt get rid of this dark cloud, itÕs a real struggle to get beyond the negativity and all the positive affirmations can help to a point. But if you really got this baggage, it needs to be released so you can break through into the amazingness and that feeling of freedom and liberation. So, anyway, go to the website if youÕre dealing with any of these things. Get those show notes. I want to go into, I guess, as we wrap up here, Emily, is do you want to describe briefly what those, any of those steps or anymore details that you want to give the people that are listening?
Emily Filloramo: Yeah, sure! You know, if there is one caveat that I want to say before I summarize the steps is that if you are listening to this show and you are at a point where you cannot cope with life. Please go see a licensed mental health counselor. They are going to help you go from not coping to good.
Aaron Kennard: Yeah.
Emily Filloramo: And, when you are stable and good and psychologically stable, then you are ready to go from good to great. And you just want to release the last of the negative energies from the past; this is what this process can help you do.
Aaron Kennard: Yeah, definitely. If you are feeling incapable of going on another day type of situation, definitely go get some professional help because itÕs that important but, this is. I appreciate you bringing that up.
Emily Filloramo: Yes, yes. I just want to make sure that we cover that ground for anybody that because thereÕs a huge value in licensed mental health professionals because theyÕre really going to help you understand your past so you can move forward. Because in order for any of us to be great, we have to understand ourselves by going to the past.
Aaron Kennard: Yeah.
Emily Filloramo: And this is just that last, last step of just releasing the [ick].
Aaron Kennard: Yeah, great. And so, what else? Anything else you want to share here?
Emily Filloramo: So, let me just summarize it. IÕm going to summarize the three steps here. Step One is just identify and understand the person that negatively affected you the most growing up. And Step Two is once you understand and have the compassion and have the forgiveness and you write a forgiveness letter to the person that hurt you in Step One. You donÕt have to mail it. The energy of just doing that on your computer or in handwriting it out, it just releases the rest of the negativity. IÕve done this myself through my own journey and itÕs been very, very helpful. If you want to burn it, you can burn it and just release it all.
Aaron Kennard: Nice.
Emily Filloramo: And, then the Step Three is overturning the negative core beliefs of that part of you that was affected by the person in Step One. So you identify who this person is and then you go back and revisit that little girl or boy that was affected by this person and get yourself into that room and just crouch down and talk to that person and give him or her the hugs that they needed, the love that they never got, what they needed at that time. And I cover this in the videos that Aaron is going to be putting up on for this show. ThereÕs a three-part video series that describes what IÕm talking about here so you get a clear understanding. So between the video and downloading this I think you should be able to move forward, because at Step Three, when you overturn those negative core beliefs, the job is for you, the highest loving self of you of today to unconditionally give that younger part the love and reassurances that they need that they never got. And you get to form a new memory and move forward in that way.
Aaron Kennard: Very cool. So, itÕs four steps you said?
Emily Filloramo: Well itÕs three steps.
Aaron Kennard: ThatÕs it.
Emily Filloramo: Step Three was overturning the negative core beliefs of that part of you that was affected by Step One. Then when you overturn that negative core belief, you overturn it by giving that younger parts the love that he or she needed that he or she never got.
Aaron Kennard: Cool. That sounds awesome. Well, Emily, thank you so much for being here. Thank you so much for your generosity. I mean, youÕve transformed many peopleÕs lives already in the community and I know this is going to help even a little further to expose people more. So, thanks for just being so willing to share openly here with everybody.
Emily Filloramo: Yes, yes, and like we were saying earlier, it takes a village to heal everybody. And, we all need healing in some ways because all of our parents are loving and weÕre loving. But sometimes you just didnÕt know how to show up in that way because they just didnÕt know that our brains weÕre such in a hypnotic state that we took in everything literally.
Aaron Kennard: Yeah. Yup. ThatÕs really, really amazing stuff. Thank you so much for what you are doing and IÕll let you go for now. And, everybody else, have a great week. Until the next episode and weÕll talk to you all soon.
Emily Filloramo: Great! Thank you, Aaron. Thank you for having me on again.
Aaron Kennard: Absolutely.