Bill Douglas brushes death twice and shows us a super happy personís attitude toward life.

 

Bill Douglas: It's so wonderful to watch, but if I look down, all Iím gonna see is mud. Everyone else is in it too, so why dwell on the negative. It's there I gotta walk through it, I'm just gonna do it but look where Iím going and look why. Thereís good around me, I just have to seek it out, I surround myself with amazing people and all of a sudden I started really enjoying my amazing life.

 

Aaron Kennard: Welcome to the Truly Amazing Life show where you get to learn about the right attitude and approach to take the life from people who have nearly died multiple times so that you don't have nearly die yourself. What a deal! And not only do not have nearly die yourself to learn this stuff, but it's free. Wow! I'm your host, Aaron Kennard and Iím looking forward to introducing you to my friend Bill who has a stunning attitude toward life, let's jump right in.

 

Alright, welcome to the Truly Amazing Life podcast. I'm excited today to have my good friend Bill Douglas on the line and Bill, as a quick intro, is the founder and CEO of Essential Link. Heís a serial entrepreneur, he guides day to day operations and drives the company strategic vision and Essential Link provides cloud host to services, remote backup and DR and IT infrastructure management to companies all over the world. So Bill and I meet at entrepreneurial, well in the entrepreneur organization, weíre good friends and Bill is committed to giving back. Heís participated in a 10-day relief trip to Haiti. Weeks after the 2010 earthquake, heís been an active volunteer with junior achievement and YMCA youth sports for years and previously volunteer for the Denver homeless shelter and his local church among other things. And so Iím really excited to have Bill on the line. Bill are you there?

 

Bill Douglas: I am. Thank you for the flattering introduction.

 

Aaron Kennard: Absolutely, are you ready to rock and roll?

 

Bill Douglas: Yes.

 

Aaron Kennard: Cool. Well, I brought Bill on line everybody because he lives a truly amazing life, heís an amazing individual and he has some stories from his life that have led him there, that I think people should hear, so thatís what weíre gonna get, weíre gonna dive in today. But, letís just start right off. Bill, whatís makes life amazing to you right now?

 

Bill Douglas: Oh! Everyday is a gift, I didnít always realize I had an amazing life but I thank God I always had an amazing life.

 

Aaron Kennard: Yah.

 

Bill Douglas: When I almost lost it, by lost I mean lost my life. My perspective changed. I mean I had two near death experiences and I have another lifelong challenge some people may even deem depressing. And I just don't know it, I believe it that life is a gift. Itís a gift meant to be pursued, to be shared and enjoyed, and I try to live that everyday.

 

Aaron Kennard: I love what you just said.

 

Bill Douglas: Happiness too. It is achievable and it's infectious so we have to help each other out along this happiness journey.

 

Aaron Kennard: Love it love it. I agree everything you just said. I love how you have said it's infectious thatís why I'm exactly doing this, I like, I just wanna share people excitement about life so I just love getting people with your level of enthusiasmon here to share that with other people. And what you have said at the beginning was you always have a truly amazing life you just didnít realize it. That is so true. Thatís the truth for every single person. Youíre alive on this planet that means you been given a gift of a truly amazing life. And it's now it's time to realize that today, right?

 

Bill Douglas: Absolutely, I mean when I came back from Haiti, I realized I hit the lottery just by being born here.

 

Aaron Kennard: Exactly.

 

Bill Douglas: Only Five percent of the population of the world that I got to be born in United States as an American, and that was an amazing gift right there just realizing that.

 

Aaron Kennard: I mean you got, thatís such a huge contrast, but then even take that further look at those people in Haiti. They got an amazing gift just for being born, right? For getting a body.

 

Bill Douglas: They are so happy and had absolutely nothing. They had their life, and their time, and their family but they had no things, like weíre so attached to in our country.

 

Aaron Kennard: On that note, how would you relate their happiness how happy they were from your perspective compared to most people you see here in America.

 

Bill Douglas: Oh gosh dude. The kids where always happy, they could ball a duct tape and turn it into a game. All they wanted to do is play.

 

Aaron Kennard: Uh huh.

 

Bill Douglas: There wasnít the boredom phenomenon. People were glad, granted they were still in shock, you know there is death everywhere, piles of bodies. Then people were just glad to be alive, but I think that Haitian people are really like that to start with. It's lower than a third world country. It's considered a fourth world country. So that was a shock for me to go, I thought I gonna do construction, end up working in the hospitals to see both extremes of life, a woman having a baby in one room and somebody dying in the next. I'm not even in the medical profession, so it was quite interesting experience.

 

Aaron Kennard: Wow! That is interesting. Well letís jump into your story here. You mentioned youíve a had, youíve had the number of experiences so, take us back to the experiences that change of perspective made you realize how amazing the gift this life is. Bring us back to one of those that made a huge impact on you. Give us more details.

 

Bill Douglas: Ok. I was 28. I was a corporate jock, quickly climbing the ladder you know, at CEO aspirations fast moving always on track I thought I can conquer the world. This was a fortune 500 company and I was on the executive track. I was in great physical shape, I mean I used to race bikes, and play beach volleyball competitively.

 

Aaron Kennard: Uh huh.

 

Bill Douglas: And one day that all changed. I got bit by a coral snake, while building a deck for my parents as a gift, and within minutes I was paralyzed. I was in full respiratory arrest. I had no idea that I was bit. So, literally within five minutes I was in the hospital. Theyíre trying to figure out whatís wrong with me. You know, stripped my clothes off looking for entrance wounds.

 

Aaron Kennard: You got lucky. Luckily youíve got somebody was there to take you to the hospital, right? Right away I guess.

 

Bill Douglas: I was fortunate that my dad my working from home that day.

 

Aaron Kennard: Uh huh.

 

Bill Douglas: And he picked me up, and Iím a big guy, but he picked me up, put me in the car and drove about a hundred miles an hour to the hospital. And that is actually the wrong thing to do for anybody that was injured, just call 911.

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah.

 

Bill Douglas: Yeah. If he had waited the red light, I would have died in the car.

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah.

 

Bill Douglas: But while youíre in a respiratory arrest, youíre conscious. You are paralyzed but you are conscious. You can see and you know whatís going on, so your brain is thinking. And all of that stuff I mentioned, the money, the jobs, the sports, the travel, the busy, the friends, the tiles, none of them mattered and I didnít think about it not mattering. I just didnít think of it.

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah.

 

Bill Douglas: Life mattered. The doctor came up to me and said ďMr. Douglas, you may not make through this, but this is what we had to do to try and save your life.Ē Hearing that, that was far from pleasant. SoÖ

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah.

 

Bill Douglas: That was fearful. I mean, itís terrifying.

 

Aaron Kennard: But it pretty quickly stripped away every other concern, right? I mean, thereís no other thing on your mind at that point.

 

Bill Douglas: Nothing. Nothing. Itís a survival mode.

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah.

 

Bill Douglas: Youíre down to the core basis of life.

 

Aaron Kennard: Ok. So, what happened?

 

Bill Douglas: Theyíre going to give you this anti-venom. It may kill you, but if we donít give it to you, you will die.

 

Aaron Kennard: Wow. Thatís crazy. So, what ha- so take us through then. What happened? Whatís so impactful about that?

 

Bill Douglas: Well recovery, I just had to stay in ICU by the week, so recovery left plenty of time to digest the feelings of fear, the feelings of accomplishment, the feelings of desire.

 

Aaron Kennard: Uh huh.

 

Bill Douglas: In few things with a much clearer lens on life. Not on things, but on life itself. It changed me as a person. It changed how I lived, because it changed how I viewed, and how I loved life.

 

Aaron Kennard: And that was kinda, a transformation in that week while youíre, just that moment and then that week in the hospital, just really changed your whole perspective on everything?

 

Bill Douglas: It absolutely did. I decided when I was laying there in the hospital that I was dying with a corporate job. I always wanted to have a real company, you know I was a scrappy entrepreneur. As a kid, I wanted to have a real company. So I went and started one. I wanted to stop waffling, playing with, being on the fence. So I begin dating very seriously, the woman that became my wife. And I wanted to start a family.

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah.

 

Bill Douglas: We started saving money to build a house. Then I started doing more long-term goals that had substantial, where with all behind it rather than just shoot from the hip then won this title.

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah, titles become pretty insignificant when you realize some of those things, right?

 

(Laugh)

 

Bill Douglas: Absolutely. Absolutely. And I did get away from that. I, you know it was easy to live that way for five or seven years, but then the kids come and youíre in a routine, work-home work-dinner-bedtime-exhaustion.

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah. I can relate to that one very much soÖ

 

Bill Douglas: Yeah. I know. Different stage of fatherhood than I am, butÖ

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah.

 

Bill Douglas: I can relate, so you lather-rinse-repeat. And you do thatÖ

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah. Also take us there then, you got into, you got into some kind of a rut or maybe you fell away from this whole passion for life through that, getting into that rut or what?

 

Bill Douglas: I did. I fell away with it. From it, I got caught up in starting another business and trying to, you know do this vacation or get this car, or upgrade to this house. I did fall away from it. Guilty as charged and Iíve had a couple of experiences that bring me back on track since then.

 

Aaron Kennard: So take us there.

 

Bill Douglas: Itís a matter of viewing those as not bad, but good.

 

Aaron Kennard: I really like yourÖ Iím really intrigued by this because some people, I mean Iíve talked to just have this one amazing experience and theyíre all on their way for life but sounds like youíve kinda have gone through a lot of life so far. So take us through what happens then. So you find yourself getting caught more back up in the things and accomplishments, some things like this, letting that dictate your happiness for a minute there, and then what happened next? What happened to get you out of that again?

 

Bill Douglas: I was told by a doctor that I had a medical condition that a lot of people wouldnít like. Iíd rather not go into the details, but dealing with that is another grounding experience. Your kids are sitting in the office here with you and your wife and you know, you hear youíre not gonna be able to do this, youíre not gonna be able to do that. So that was downright depression for a few months of shock, you know?

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah.

 

Bill Douglas: Almost 20 years to the day after I, letís say it was 19 years to the day after I had the snake bite. the USA Today got wind off the story and read an article about it. How near death experiences changed entrepreneurs lives.

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah.

 

Bill Douglas: The very next day after that article ran in the USA today. Read in on Tuesday, February, two years ago. The very next day I crashed skiing Breckon Ridge. Now Iím a lifetime snow skier, wasnít doing anything outrageous other than skiing fast. And I woke up six hours later, again, paralyzed, after a helicopter ride and a surgery that I donít remember in Denver.

 

Aaron Kennard: Oh my God.

 

Bill Douglas: And it happened in Breckon Ridge.

 

Aaron Kennard: Wow.

 

Bill Douglas: So that was, you know 25 minute flight and six hours later I woke up with the bunch of my friends in the E.R room, not E.R, O.R. E.R waiting for O.R. Excuse me.

 

Aaron Kennard: So you were unconscious for six hours?

 

Bill Douglas: I was. Yes.

 

Aaron Kennard: Wow.

 

Bill Douglas: I donít recall the first surgery, shattered 13 bones and punctured a lung and had aortic bleeding and a concussion and blew up my shoulder all the same time, like in one instant. Thereís all upper torso damaged, and that again was another, you know, you might not walk again story. You canít feel your toes, you canít move your legs. So as you lay there in the hospital room, you can either feel bad for yourself or count your blessings. And I chose to do the latter, because I didnít want my son to see me like that. I knew they were coming to the hospital. So I intentionally had to change my attitude.

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah.

 

Bill Douglas: So that experience was two years ago, and now that was what I would call my refresher course.

 

(Laugh)

 

Aaron Kennard: It's funny how life hands us those so perfectly, right? When you need them for some reason, right?

 

Bill Douglas: Yes.

 

Aaron Kennard: I guess thatís the way I choose to look at in anyway.

 

Bill Douglas: It was, it was good timing. I would much rather do something than own something now. That became very clear from that experience. I always pursue, Iíve personal core values that are clarified since then. I always had Ďem but I know what they are and pursue unique shared experience like all those USEís. U-S-E.

 

Aaron Kennard: Uh huh. U-S-E?

 

Bill Douglas: U-S-E. I always pursue the USE.

 

Aaron Kennard: Thatís cool.

 

Bill Douglas: Not how to USE something, but U-S-E is what I call Unique Shared Experience. Because, I could have a shared experience sitting at home on the back deck having a nice conversation with somebody while the sun sets.

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah.

 

Bill Douglas: It doesnít have to be extravagant. I donít have to be on the other side of the world. Itís the shared experience part that makes it special.

 

Aaron Kennard: So that was, did that come since that experience? I mean that reawakening, that refresher course as you called it?

 

Bill Douglas: That refresher course? Of course, yes it did. The last quote on USA Today article, they asked me to say something and I said ďLifeís a gift, meant to be pursued, shared, and fully enjoyed.Ē And that was the last line in the article. So thatísÖ

 

Aaron Kennard: So, the next day is when youíre just about died again?

 

Bill Douglas: The very next day. Around Tuesday, and then on Wednesday, Iíve been by 9:30 on Wednesday morning I was in a helicopter being flown to Denver.

 

Aaron Kennard: You said life was a gift, meant to be what? Can you repeat that for me?

 

Bill Douglas: Pursued, to be shared, and to be fully enjoyed.

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah. Thatís awesome.

 

Bill Douglas: So, you know my friends, they harass me about the guy that always says that lifeís a gift, but it is. Not all gifts are as nice as you want them but theyíre all gifts.

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah. So you look at all those experiences then as gifts even though they were all insanely challenging.

 

Bill Douglas:I have to. Look at what I got out of Ďem.

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah. Thatís it. I mean what else are you gonna do, right? You can choose to be, you can choose to be ticked with what happened to you or you got sick or whatever, right? But whatís that gonna do to help you in the end? I love your attitude on that.

 

Bill Douglas: Well, I uhm, I donít know. The one piece of advice people tendÖ they tend to say what did you get most out of all these things?

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah.

 

Bill Douglas: And honestly, the way I deal with it. Everybody has challenges. Everybody has trials and tribulations. Weíre all walking through the same mud of life, so to speak.

 

Aaron Kennard: Uh huh.

 

Bill Douglas: Like weíre knee deep into it, letís pull it on our shoes. I choose not to look down. I choose to look on the horizon or up the mountain top where I want to go and itís not out of insanity or denial. Itís just that, now if I look where Iím going and I look at the other people Iím on this walk with, itís so wonderful to walk, but if I look down, all Iím gonna see is mud. Everyone else is in it too.

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah.

 

Bill Douglas: So why dwell on the negative? Itís there. I gotta walk through it. Iím just gonna do it, but look where Iím going and look why. You know, thereís good all around me, I just have to seek it out. I surround myself with amazing people and all of a sudden I started really enjoying my amazing life.

 

Aaron Kennard: Thatís awesome. Thatís such a great way to put it. I could not put that better.Thank you so much for sa-syncly sharing that with everybody.Well, Bill, letís just move forward to couple of question and more advice for other people and first off, youíre familiar with the 12 pillars of a Truly Amazing Life post that I have? Of those, which one of those 12 pillars stands out to you most right now and why is that?

 

Bill Douglas: Itís in joy. Have to be in joy. Pursue the USE

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah.

Bill Douglas: Unique Shared Experience. You rain joy, not just to yourself, but to others. So you get to positively impact others which is another personal core value in mine.

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah.

 

Bill Douglas: So itís enjoying. If I had to pick a second it would be gift.

 

Aaron Kennard: Love it. Well, it seems to be the, thatís kinda seems to be the core of what you are. What makes you so happy and you just, I like how youÖ I like that acronym. Iíve got another acronym from somebody else recently. I love when people have those acronyms that keep them on track, I mean like having that, sounds like it just keeps you on the track to remembering that core value of yours all the time, right? That USE thing. Thatís pretty cool. Well, what one book would you most highly recommend to someone to help them really start living a Truly Amazing Life?

 

Bill Douglas: Oh. Do I have to pick one?

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah. Pick one. Pick your top one. I know itís hard cause thereís a million good books out there, I mean thatís why I wanna make this question hard on you. It canít be easy. What one book you say youĎd recommend?

 

Bill Douglas: Iím not good at remembering how many books Iíve read. So, the last book that I found very, very helpful to me, itís not that spiritually even though it sounds like. Itís by Dalai Lama. You know, Iím not even a Buddhist, but the art of happiness goes in discussing who we are as people, and how religions, many religions digest it, and how you can actually seek happiness and a lot of it starts with you looking inward, leaning into feelings and acknowledging them, not denying them. Realizing what you do have versus what you want.

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah.

 

Bill Douglas: So the Art of Happiness is a ten year old book, but I just read it. Itís probably one of the most impactful ever Ive read in the past year.

 

Aaron Kennard: Awesome. Thanks for sharing that. Thatís cool. The Art of Happiness by the Dalai Lama?

 

Bill Douglas: The Art of Happiness.

 

Aaron Kennard: Yeah. Cool. Well, thanks for all the pointers youíve given us and just sharing your story and being real with that. Thereís some amazing lessons you shared and letís just wrap up then, just for the listeners, to get a hold of Bill, if you wanna see what heís doing in his company, itís essentialink.com. Thatís the, thatís your website. Is there any other contact info or anything youíd wanna leave with anybody besides that? Or any parting words of thoughts or advice before we wrap up Bill?

 

Bill Douglas: Parting words, one of my mentor told me ďSlow down physically so you can listen more, and savor the relationships you already have.Ē You can take that in any direction you want. Whether thatís now or in the future, but surround yourself with those that want the same things you do. So my contact info is bdouglas@essentialink and thereís only one L in there .com. and you can call me 720 259 4975.

 

Aaron Kennard: Cool. Thanks for sharing that Bill and Iíll put up all the info on this call on the call notes at trulyamazinglife.com/podcast. And with that, letís just wrap up, Iíll let you get back to your day and have a fantastic day everybody and thanks again being on the line Bill.

 

Bill Douglas: Itís been an honor Aaron. Thank you very much.

 

Aaron Kennard: Ok. Talk to you soon my friend.Thanks for tuning in today. If you like this call and if you think it would bless somebody elseís life to hear it, please go over to iTunes and leave us a review. You can click the link to this show over at trulyamazinglife.com/episode10. If you want a direct link so you could just go over and leave a review. Also, over that website trulyamazinglife.com/episode10, you can get a link to the show notes, and the link to the book that Bill recommended here. And thatís all for today. Thanks again and make today amazing.