When does asking WHY lead to self-sabotage?

There’s a great book called “Start With Why” by Simon Sinek.

Truly fantastic book.  Highly recommend it.  It helped me a TON.  Why can be a wonderful question.  And in the way Simon puts it I totally agree we should start with why.

“Why am I doing this thing…whatever it is I’m doing?”

Asking that helps you understand your true self which leads to being true to yourself.


But what about when why sabotages you?  And this happens SO MUCH OF THE TIME.

So common.

Example:  something happens you think is bad.  “Why did this happen to me?  I’m a good person.  I always try to do what’s right.  Why me?”

Another example:  “Why do bad things always happen to me?  Just when I think things are working out, something bad always happens to ruin it.”


Why is a powerful question – for good or ill…use it wisely.

Why are you doing what you’re doing is an important thing to be aware of.

But asking “Why me?  Why do I deserve this?”  only leads to suffering.  That’s the wrong way to ask why if you want improvement and happiness.

First of all, it assumes that the thing that happened is bad!  

NOTHING that happens is inherently ‘good’ or ‘bad’.  You don’t know the end from the start last time I checked. And EVERYTHING has a positive and negative.  

Every Cell.

Every ion.

And yes, every event, situation, person, thing.

It is your choice what you make of everything that happens.  So why not stop asking ‘Why me?’ and totally sabotaging yourself?

You are not a victim.

You are the one in the drivers seat of your thoughts.

Use why wisely…that question can be highly constructive…or highly destructive.



PS – Truly Amazing Daily subscriber Steve shared this link about Simon sinek…amazing and inspiring message!  Thanks Steve.


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