Succeed – Day 22 – Why FAILING A LOT is actually the best thing you can possibly do to SUCCEED A LOT.
Let’s continue to talk about FAILING and why it’s the path to the greatest SUCCESS!
And let’s talk about how to do it with style and feel good about it instead of feeling horrible.
Why should you fail a LOT?
Well…only if you want to succeed a lot.
Failing is progressing your worthy goal because you are learning what DOESN’T work…and that is the only way to truly learn what DOES work.
Here’s a quick personal story to illustrate the power of embracing failure: How I raised 2 Million dollars of capital in 30 days by embracing failure
In the early days of starting my Real Estate Investment business I needed to secure $2 Million in additional capital for my business to survive and thrive.
In over 2 years of effort I had only come up with about $500,000.
On the advice of some great mentors, I wrote down this affirmation and started repeating it daily:
“I have over 2 Million dollars of investment capital at my fingertips.”
Every day I religiously repeated that and visualized myself using that investment capital.
Then after running into a brick wall for nearly 2 months with no progress, my mentor noticed when questioning me that I was afraid of rejection. Fear of failure was blocking me from even asking people for money.
In order to overcome the fear he gave me this prescription: “Go get 50 people to tell you NO as fast as possible.”
Seemed like strange advice…I thought I wanted a yes.
But I took his counsel and went forth with focused determination to just get those NO’s as fast as possible.
I started getting rejections and discovered it didn’t even bother me much, and I kept going.
Then I failed miserably at my new goal.
I couldn’t do it.
The problem was, nearly everyone I asked for money started telling me YES.
Within the next 30 days I had over $2 Million in new committed funds and I have never lacked for investment capital since.
I still haven’t reached 50 NO’s six years later, but my eyes were opened to the power of failing.
Sales is not much different than most things in life, it’s a numbers game; put in enough attempts and you’ll eventually find the way.
But if you’re afraid of failing, you’ll never make enough attempts.
But the truth is you have nothing to fear but fear itself.
How do you get past the fear? By making it a game to see how FAST you can get the failed attempts out of the way!
It’s a totally different paradigm than our natural ‘perfectionist’ paradigm, which says: I need to do it right!
NO!! You just need to do it. Then learn from it and improve on it.
The need to do things right the first time is the surefire way to barely help anyone at all and do very little good in the world.
Perfectionism is not the way to progress your worthy goal….perfectionism is not the way of success.
Failure is the path of success…as odd as that sounds it’s the truth.
“He only earns his freedom & his life who takes every day by storm.” – Goethe
Taking life by storm has nothing to do with nitpicking the details, worrying what people will think, and holding back until it’s just right.
Want to succeed big today?
FAIL BIG TODAY!
And how do you go about failing ‘in style’ so that you don’t feel horrible about it?
That is an art form…that you will only ever learn by experience. That’s the harsh truth of the matter.
The only way to get better and more graceful at failing is to fail a LOT.
“Out of defeat comes victory; out of failure, success; and out of humbling, true self-esteem” – David R. Hawkins
So get busy failing! The quicker you start the quicker you’ll get better at it!
Expect yourself to fail ‘ungracefully’ at first, especially if you know you tend toward perfectionism! (Like me.)
You’ll get used to it.
I absolutely adore the principle of failure – it is so liberating to know that’s how life truly works!
Ask any ultra-happy, accomplished, wealthy, or highly influential person and I guarantee you they will confirm what Michael Jordan (arguably the greatest basketball player in history) said:
“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed.”
“I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordan
Embrace failure! Love it.
Understand that success is made of failure and go fail as much as you can today!
To fail often means you put yourself on the line often.
And that is truly living life.
Make Today Amazing!