*** Note: This article was written in August of 2012 as my body was shutting down – one month before I got diagnosed with an autoimmune disease Ulcerative Colitis.
Will today be a good day or a bad day?
For me, today, and every day, is a good day.
Last year I realized that there is no such thing as a bad day unless I decide there is. I realized we all actually have the power to make today either good or bad simply by deciding.
I didn’t fully realize that before then. I used to think that I wasn’t in full control of whether I had a good or bad day. I thought bad days were an inevitable part of life.
I was wrong.
I no longer believe that, and I have proven it for myself. And I can help you prove it for yourself.
And it can make a massive difference in your life if you let it.
As I write this to you I am just barely recovered enough to type as the pain in my body has settled down a bit after about 4 hours of intense, burning waves of pain in my rectal area.
I’m not sure yet what is causing the pain in my body. I have two appointments with specialists scheduled.
Today I have been curled up in the fetal position for most of the last 4 hours, trying to breath, be at peace, and learn from the experience. This has been a daily occurrence for the past week or so.
I have been asking myself over and over, “where is the benefit in this adversity? What is the advantage of this pain?”
I have also been reminding myself that “All these things will give me experience and will be for my good”.
And I know they will without a shred of doubt. I know absolutely, without doubt, that this pain I have been experiencing the past 16 days since the birth of my 4th child is here for a purpose. And I know that a lot of good will come from it.
I don’t know how. And I don’t know what yet. But I do know that it is for my good, and the collective good of all. And I consider myself blessed and feel very grateful for that Faith.
In the meantime, I am actively seeking knowledge and wisdom, clarity and peace within. And I am finding them in abundance.
In December and November 2011 I experienced an intense sore throat pain that lasted for a month, during which I discovered how to enable that pain to become my servant, reminding me to express gratitude and experience joy even in pain.
That experience embedded into my heart and mind the knowledge that my circumstances don’t determine my life…My thoughts and my faith do.
And right now today I am grateful for another opportunity to grow. I am grateful to have this new experience with pain because I know it is going to be for my good and enable me to do more good for others.
I certainly wouldn’t have consciously sought out this experience. And it came seemingly randomly the very day that my daughter Kelsie was born on July 28.
But I know that nothing is random. All things have purpose. And I will find the good in everything that shows up in my life. Because I know from experience that that is the way to Joy and Abundance.
And I can tell you that I have not had a ‘bad day’ since December 2011. And no amount of physical pain is capable of causing me to determine that today is bad.
And if every day, the rest of my life, brings with it physical pain, then so be it. I know now more than ever that physical pain cannot and will not stop me from experiencing Joy.
Because I absolutely love today and I embrace it and I thank God for giving me another day of life.
I thank our loving Creator for an amazing and beautiful, precious new baby girl. I am in absolute awe and amazement that I have the privilege to be such an integral part of this person’s life.
I could go on for hours on how amazing my life is and how blessed I am. As I write this, tears are streaming down my cheeks. Not from pain, but thinking about how full my heart is with the love I am surrounded by. My beautiful wife is sleeping soundly next to me, resting while Kelsie sleeps between meals.
My 4 year old Ali and 8 year old Abe just came in to tell me with excitement of the ‘squeenky castle’ they found on amazon that Ali wants to buy with the money she earned weeding outside this morning. It is so wonderful to see the love Abe has for Ali, and the joy they experience together.
And I get to be a part of all of it! And I have the privilege of being called ‘Daddy’ and all the kisses and hugs and love that come with that.
And I cannot hold back the tears. As I ponder and write about this it feels like my heart is overflowing out my eyes and trying to burst out everywhere.
I feel so blessed. I am so amazingly blessed.
So if this pain is here for nothing else than to remind me, and to remind you, to count our blessings, say thank you, and express our love, then it is sufficient. I will count it a worthwhile cost.
But I know there is more than that still. Our universal source and creator is eager to pour out blessings, abundance, goodness, joy, and happiness into our lives.
Our task is simply to allow the flow.
We just need to align our thoughts with the love and gratitude vibration that allows all goodness to flow to us and through us.
If we choose to think “why me? why is this so hard? Why don’t things work out for me?” Then we are choosing to stop the flow of goodness, abundance, love and peace into our life and we are holding ourselves apart from a truly amazing life.
Those thoughts are like paddling upstream. Just stop fighting the current and let yourself flow.
Instead, in times of comfort as well as pain, say “Thank You.” Look for the good in it. And keep on saying that. We will absolutely find reasons to be grateful.
Say “I love you God. I trust you God. I love you self. I trust you self. You are capable and all knowing. I know that all things that happen are for my good, and I trust in time I will see how.”
And we will find the good in ALL things.
We get exactly what we look for.
That is one thing that is meant by “Ask and ye shall receive.”
So, will you join me in DECIDING that there is No Such Thing As A Bad Day?
I invite you to do so.
Thank you for reading this and allowing me to be a small part of your life. I appreciate you.
If this message helped you in any way today, please comment and let me know. I want to hear from you. I would love to hear if you disagree also, and think there is a need for a ‘bad day’.
God bless you. This Is A Truly Amazing Life!