I got that question the other day from a TAL Family member – here are some thoughts:
1st – take a peak at the emotional guidance scale:
- Joy, Knowledge, Empowerment, Freedom, Love, Appreciation
- Enthusiasm, Eagerness, Happiness
- Positive Expectation, Belief
- Frustration, Irritation, Impatience
- Hatred, Rage
- Insecurity, Guilt, Unworthiness
- Fear, Grief, Depression, Despair, Powerlessness
Notice where Jealousy and irritation are on the scale?
Jealousy is way at the bottom, irritation right in the middle…and both are pretty far away from joy, love, and positivity.
The first thing to note, is that if you are feeling jealousy or irritation – you’re not going to be feeling positive and loving at the same time.
And usually if we are irritated and jealous of other people, its because we don’t deeply love ourselves and we seek to take that out on others.
It’s a subconscious thing we don’t even recognize.
But when we find unconditional love for ourself, that jealousy and irritation just melts away…because it’s also impossible to be feeling unconditional love, and jealousy at the same time.
Those two emotions don’t mix.
So how do you deal with jealousy and irritation then??
Leave them alone and don’t deal with them at all.
Focus your attention on moving up the emotional scale in the direction of love one step at a time. Focus your effort on finding love within yourself, for yourself.
Once you find love for yourself, that feeling will spill out toward everyone else.
Jealousy and irritation are clear indicators that there’s not much love going on inside. Usually we are disappointed with ourselves, mad at ourselves, and that comes out in negative reactions toward others.
Every morning, and every night for 30 days, look yourself in the eyes in the mirror and repeat this 3 times to yourself. “I love you fully and unconditionally and I forgive you for all mistakes of the past. You are amazing.”
If you don’t see a clear decrease in jealousy and irritation after 30 days of doing that I would be shocked.
This process of learning to deeply love yourself is the main aspect of the ‘Remember’ pillar of a TAL.
I’m working on a 30 day 5 Minute Mental Mastery series based on this, and it will be one of the next ones I release.
Get in on the TAL Mastermind Pre-Launch team now to get first access to it when it’s ready.
But also, don’t wait on that to start loving yourself! Do what I told you above. It’s simple.
Make Today Amazing! (or at least move up 1 step from irritation to pessimism 😉
P.S. – did you notice how anger and revenge are closer to love than depression and despair? It’s easy to be disappointed in oneself for being angry, which just sends you back down to despair. But anger is actually progress…keep moving up one step at a time! You don’t just jump from jealousy to love in one moment…it takes time.